For each item, rate how you feel you are able to display the ability. Recall situations where you have had to use the item. Score each numbered item from 1 (low) to 10 (high). Write your response in the white space. For some items there will be multiple white spaces, and you should write your response in each column.
| Item | A | B | C | D | E |
| 1. Relax while under pressure | |||||
| 2. Remain productive when angry | |||||
| 3. Calm yourself quickly after becoming anxious | |||||
| 4. Associate body language with emotions | |||||
| 5. Use “self-talk” for positive well being | |||||
| 6. Effectively communicate your feelings | |||||
| 7. Remember negative feelings without becoming anxious | |||||
| 8. Remain calm when being attacked by others | |||||
| 9. Recognize negative “self-talk” | |||||
| 10. Recognize anger at the onset | |||||
| 11. Accurately interpret events in your life | |||||
| 12. Know which of your senses you are using | |||||
| 13. Accurately communicate your experiences | |||||
| 14. Identify the point at which your mood shifts | |||||
| 15. Identify when you become defensive | |||||
| 16. Understand the impact your behavior has on others | |||||
| 17. “Psyche yourself up” willingly | |||||
| 18. Complete long tasks within deadlines | |||||
| 19. Maintain energy when doing boring work | |||||
| 20. Change or stop bad habits | |||||
| 21. Quickly regroup after a setback | |||||
| 22. Follow words with actions | |||||
| 23. Create more productive behavior patterns | |||||
| 24. Work out conflicts | |||||
| 25. Influence others, either directly or indirectly | |||||
| 26. Make others feel good | |||||
| 27. Help others manage their emotions | |||||
| 28. Recognize when others are distressed | |||||
| Total |
When you have finshed, total the columns. The range will fall between 8 and 80. The column with the lowest number will be the one you need to work on the most.
| A | Self-Awareness |
| B | Managing Emotions |
| C | Self-Motivation |
| D | Relating Well |
| E | Emotional Mentoring |
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